In life I think you are one of two people. Let’s say you’re walking across the street and trip, do you save face and keep walking eyes straight or do you look around acknowledge any witnesses and laugh at/with yourself?
As a young adult (I use the term adult very loosely) I think one of the most important things you can do is really get to know yourself. Sounds fairly simple and like most things, is not. How do you get to know yourself (or anyone for that matter) is by spending good ol’ quality time solo. I have always loved to be alone. It’s kind of been my thing since I was younger. Seeing movies alone, going to restaurants alone, shopping alone etc. Don’t get me wrong I have always been very social. Tight group of friends, boyfriends, 3,000 family members within a 2 mile radius (literally). But some of my favorite moments have happened while I was alone. I used to think I was a complete freak of nature but as I have grown up I think it’s something everyone should be able to do. I came to the realization that if I don’t want to hang out with me, why the hell would anybody else? Being alone forces you to make decisions that we often leave to compromise with others. Feel like a burger? Get one. Want to go to the beach? Go.
The ideology behind doing what you want often gets labeled as “selfish” but why? As long as it is not at the expense of another person what’s the ish? You are and should be the most important person in your life. Duhhh. Take a day and do whatever the fuck you want. See how it feels. And now I leave you with a gratuitous Carrie Bradshaw quote (you knew it was coming eventually)…
“The most exciting, challenging and significant relationship of all is the one you have with yourself. And if you can find someone to love the you you love, well, that’s just fabulous.”
Haute Mess Lesson: Do you girl.
Take a listen to another post appropriate Haute Mess anthem written/recorded by the very talented and equally good looking Andrew Haas ( my boo) John Ryan, Ian Pollack and Josh Jones.
**Editor’s note: Can you tell I am trying to class up my site? Only one f-bomb … #maturity